Is your self-esteem ,on the rocky side? Here are some helpful hints to improve the better you in seven days.
I’ve seemed to lose count of how many times, I’ve read and heard of celebrity marriages failing almost left and right. Not that I care (and personally I don’t),but it seems strange that we often see movie and TV stars as flawless people, living the fairytale life of riches and glamour. I suppose we all have to stop sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality.
There are many ways to lose your sense of self-esteem despite of how trivial it could get, but whatever happens, we should all try not to lose our own sense of self.
What will it take to be on top? Here are some of the things you can think of and improve on, that should be enough for a week.
1. Know your purpose
Are you wandering through life with little direction – hoping that you’ll find happiness, health, and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission statement, and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your truth north every time.
This may seem tricky at first when you see yourself in a tight spot or even a dead end. But there’s always that little loophole to turn things around and you can make a big difference to yourself.
2. Know your values
What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. As you’ve set your goals for 2016 – now is the time to double check those goals against your values. If the goal(s) don’t align with any of your top five values – you may want to reconsider it or revise it. Don’t let detours discourage you, instead it should motivate you to get back on track, remember the race is not to the swift, but to those who endure to the end.
P.S. If you don’t value your time and energy, no one else will!
3. Know your needs
Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved? Are your needs healthy? Or are they blanket, crutch, or bandaid covering a deeper issue. Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically.Take care of yourself. There are so many people who lived their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List your top four healthy needs and get them met before it’s too late!
4. Know your passions
You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but will not derail your chance to become the person you ought to be, if you truly follow your heart. Express yourself and honor the people who have inspired you to become the very person you wanted to be.
5. Live from the inside out
Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. For most of us city slickers it’s hard to even find the peace and quiet we want even in our own home. In my case I often just sit in a dimly lit room and play some classical music. There’s sound, yes, but music does soothe the savage beast. Or other times I’ll just go for a walk along the river, or a park communicating with nature in her many ways.
6. Honor your strengths
What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify these. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what you know to others.
7. Serve others
When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to share with others -your spirit – your essence. The rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you is indeed, a rewarding experience,but how much more, if it were to be given to a stranger who can appreciate what you have done for them.
Self-improvement is indeed one type of work that is worth working on, but at times, it seems easier to see the splinter in our brothers eye. It’s hard to take a light and look at our own dirt and darkness ,but the minute you do I’m sure you’ll do everything required to get your house in order. Self-improvement as ironic as it seems, shouldn’t always be practiced alone neither. A lot of the times that person we can’t stand, the one we never want to be around and makes us boil, is the key to our breakthrough. The difference lies within ourselves and how much we want to change for the better. Challenge Yourself to try one new thing from the list for each day of the week. Focusing on opportunities to practice it throughout the day, and at the end of the day, come back and share your experiences, remember change was never easy, but with support ,we can do go farther and do greater things…..